Can you ever be ready to face failure?

What are you afraid of?

Some of us are afraid of spiders, lizards, the dark…basically anything that has the creepy-crawlies or gives us the heebie-jeebies. My fear – failure.

Let me get really transparent with you – I used to be so terrified of failing, it had me googling my symptoms and expecting to die. Atychiphobia happens to be a real thing –and I’m still recovering from it. I used to be so afraid of failing that I would deliberately sabotage any opportunities that presented me with a chance to fail. I’d get the cold sweats, nervous stomach-aches and nausea that saw me slamming closed any little doors of opportunity that dared to open because as far as I was concerned, not trying was a lesser sin than failing.

Thankfully, I discovered over time just how harmful this was. By that time, however, I was already drowning in a pool of regret, missed chances and opportunities that really only pass by once in a lifetime. When I realised that the biggest barrier between myself and my dreams was fear, I felt nothing short of shame.

When I calculated all that I had achieved, I found a far too many shoulda-coulda-wouldas, and not enough ‘been there, done thats’. Then I started wondering about where I would be if I had taken even half those chances I had been offered in my lifetime. Not the most comforting feeling, I’ll give you that much.

The good thing is, it’s never too late to start over. And, for want of a better cliché, anytime one door closes, another one opens. Now, I’ve evolved from fearing failure to having a strong dislike for not taking chances I’m offered in life.

It all starts with changing your mind-set.
Let’s see if I can explain it with a bit of logic: if you don’t take risks, you don’t become eligible for the rewards. If you don’t try new things, you’ll never learn anything new and your world will shrink down the size of just what you already know. That’s no way to live!

So take it from me when I tell you this –don’t be afraid to go out there and grab the bull by the horns. Do something that takes you outside of your comfort zone. Try a new shade of lipstick, take a different route to work, go on a date with the guy who texts you ‘Good morning beautiful’ every day without fail or just try ticking something off your bucket list.

Fear is one heck of a dark curtain to live behind, and the world offers so many beautiful views. So, if you’re ready to live your bold boss life, start by facing your fears. Don’t sweep them under the rug and hope they’ll sink into the floorboards. Face them head-on and start living like it was one purpose!

Shamelessly and blamelessly.

XO Amber Christe

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